Added: Jul 15, 2008

From: theqmogvlogs

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1) What is the one(or maybe more than one) thing in your life you sometimes wish you could change? (or at least wonder what it would be like if it was different?)2) What do you think would happen if you did change it? How would it effect you and those around you both positively and negatively?3) Once you have weighed all those factors, If you could change it, Would you?Discuss.

Channel: Education

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rowsdowersavesus Says:

Jul 16, 2008 - Interesting...I don't know if I would

theqmogvlogs Says:

Jul 16, 2008 - Think on it, and give us a vid(maybe?) : )

cozmikzen Says:

Jul 16, 2008 - i regret watching all those inmendham videos!

cavejourney Says:

Jul 16, 2008 - I wish I wasn't:gaylearning disabled raised in violenceuglyI'd change and of these deficiencies and not be me - I'd be better. That being said I gotta play the game with the uniform I was issued. I try to be thankful for the good things I got - health etc.I'm 45 and never had a loving partner. My choices are accept it or be bitter.I'd love a magical solution - that's why I was a theist so long. It didn't work so it's up to me to move forward with what I got.

NemoUtopian Says:

Jul 16, 2008 - 1)i would have tried to connect with my uncle earlier in life.i have been trying to in my thirties and i have not been having to much luck.2)i could not say,but there would have been fewer wasted years before i tried at the very least.3)yes

rowsdowersavesus Says:

Jul 16, 2008 - Why do you wish to not be gay? I'm sure there is a loving partner looking for a guy like you.

rowsdowersavesus Says:

Jul 16, 2008 - OK, I gave it some thought, and actually, it was rather easy. My biggest regret was how religious I was, and how long I was religious. I wish I never was, I wish I could go back knowing what I do now about how wrong religion is, that I could fight it more effectively. I think that would affect my life positively. I'd be happier, more sociable, and I'd have had more fun in my life.

theqmogvlogs Says:

Jul 16, 2008 - I think it is the "knowing what we know now" that makes a difference, because when I consider the question I think of "what if I had missed that chance to learn what I know now?"Getting to have our wisdom without the lessons... that would be nice : )And I can see how being happier and more sociable is a draw, it was my own "social behaviors" that spurred me to take the time and mull it again.

theqmogvlogs Says:

Jul 16, 2008 - Do you think that you would understand the value of those connections to the same extent you do today if you had not gone through this difficulty?

theqmogvlogs Says:

Jul 16, 2008 - Yeah Ross... Though I am kind of a girl... so it holds little to no weight but I think you are pretty awesome! : )

theqmogvlogs Says:

Jul 16, 2008 - Inmendearest is the worst thing that ever happened to you???Oh my... : )

NemoUtopian Says:

Jul 16, 2008 - do you think you would understand the value your children more if you never knew them,and were just now trying to connect with them?i doubt i would have the same understanding of value had life gone a different way,but i can not help but think the one i would have would be deeper and more worthwhile.

AppleStar7582 Says:

Jul 16, 2008 - Looking great sista, thinkin' 'bout this one. Have been for a while now.

cavejourney Says:

Jul 17, 2008 - rowsif I wasn't gay i wouldn't have received the daily beatings and been tossed out of the home at 17. instead I would have received a free education like my brother. looking for me? I'm 45 and have been looking longer than you have been alive. If you've ever been single and frustrated for a year - try to imagine a couple of decades. If i was unmarketable at 35 what are my odds at 45? I thank you for your kind intentions - i was just giving Sara an honest answer.

cavejourney Says:

Jul 17, 2008 - Actually Sara i value your opinion a great deal. I appreciate your kind words but my history has been pretty consistant. I have many wonderful straight friends but as a partner nobody has ever wanted me. I'm 45 and never heard the words "I love you" from a partner. I'm one of those guys that is labeled "sweet" which is always the lead into the lets be friends speech. I did my best to answer your question honestly. I'll probablly have some well meaning people dismiss me with cliches.hugs

aesthector Says:

Jul 19, 2008 - Ask myself this kind of thing maybe 4 or 5 or 6 or 7 times a day...and when I look at others who have had similar experiences to mine, I feel the conclusion is there's often no way to divert one from the road in which they started to tread. That said I'd love to be able to get about 15 years of my life back.

Elaina43 Says:

Jul 24, 2008 - Regret and guilt SUCK!But I totally understand the impulse to contemplate these things.The ONE THING I cannot imagine my life without is... got a guess? Yep. Chuck.